Friday, July 15, 2011

Is It Better To Give Than Receive?

Some people have a knack for giving. I don’t. And I have even more trouble accepting a gift with grace. I always feel a little embarrassed and at a loss for words when someone gives me something unexpectedly. I’d really rather they didn’t.

For every gift given, there is a gift received. Therefore, it seems strange that, although most of us have no trouble giving, still many, like me, are not comfortable with receiving a gift. We struggle with the humility required to receive a gift graciously.

Perhaps it's because we are taught that “it's better to give than to receive.” In receiving a gift, we are immediately acknowledging the gift giver and returning the favor with a show of appreciation and kind words. Therefore, both the giver and the receiver can experience the benefits associated with giving.

Receiving is a social skill and must be practiced. Gifts received for a birthday or holidays are perfect opportunities to master this skill. Whether we are thrilled with the gift or not, we must express our appreciation by complimenting the giver’s thoughtfulness and generosity. And if possible, we should always open it in the presence of the giver.

Basically, to receive graciously requires more than just the words, “Thank You.” It requires focusing on someone who has done something special for you. Remember the old saying, “It’s the thought that counts?”

It really is!



6 comments:

Anonymous said...

Yep. Sometimes it is hard to receive. I'd much rather give. good post.

Bob said...

Something to think about. i think we all feel a little uncomfortable when given a gift. I think it makes us feel good about ourselves to give.

sam said...

Another good one peg. Giving is a lot more fun. sam

nate said...

There's something about receiving that embarrasses us. Strange but true. It's much more fun to give.

Anonymous said...

And yet your ponderings are an ongoing gift to others . . .

Hugh Jones

Peggy~ said...

What a nice thing to say! Thank you!