We are born into love, and we grow up believing we’ll always have that love. Our parents love us; our siblings love us; aunts, uncles and cousins love us; we are taught to believe in a God who loves us, and if we’re lucky, we eventually meet someone who loves us enough to share a wonderful life with us.
So with all that love surrounding a person his whole life, how does one fall into a pattern of hurting the people he or she loves most? And why is it so easy to hurt people who love you? Is it because you feel sure the person who has always been close will forgive you, no matter what you do?
There can be many factors that play a part in this kind of behavior. Alcohol, in particular, can change the way a person perceives things, thus causing him to lash out at anyone who disagrees with him. And it’s always easier to verbally attack someone who loves you. You feel certain that he either won’t take it seriously or will forgive you in the end. Usually, a person with this problem apologizes profusely when he’s sober and realizes what he’s done.
That may work for a while – but not forever.
What happens if the person you were counting on to love you always, suddenly finds you unlovable? He decides he’s had enough of your abusive ways and walks away from you. What then?
Someone once said, “Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than to risk hurting yourself trying to put them back together.”
Think about it!